Recognizes Homosexuality

Islam 'Recognizes Homosexuality'

Homosexuals and homosexuality are natural and created by God, thus permissible within Islam, a discussion concluded here Thursday. Moderate Muslim scholars said there were no reasons to reject homosexuals under Islam, and that the condemnation of homosexuals and homosexuality by mainstream ulema and many other Muslims was based on narrow-minded interpretations of Islamic teachings.

Siti Musdah Mulia of the Indonesia Conference of Religions and Peace cited the Koran's al-Hujurat (49:3) that one of the blessings for human beings was that all men and women are equal, regardless of ethnicity, wealth, social positions or even sexual orientation.

"There is no difference between lesbians and nonlesbians. In the eyes of God, people are valued based on their piety," she told the discussion organized by nongovernmental organization Arus Pelangi.

"And talking about piety is God's prerogative to judge," she added.

"The essence of the religion (Islam) is to humanize humans, respect and dignify them." Musdah said homosexuality was from God and should be considered natural, adding it was not pushed only by passion.

Mata Air magazine managing editor Soffa Ihsan said Islam's acknowledgement of heterogeneity should also include homosexuality.

He said Muslims needed to continue to embrace ijtihad (the process of making a legal decision by independent interpretation of the Koran and the Sunnah) to avoid being stuck in the old paradigm without developing open-minded interpretations.

Another speaker at the discussion, Nurofiah of the Nahdlatul Ulama (NU), said the dominant notion of heterogeneity was a social construction, leading to the banning of homosexuality by the majority.

"Like gender bias or patriarchy, heterogeneity bias is socially constructed. It would be totally different if the ruling group was homosexuals," she said.

Other speakers said the magnificence of Islam was that it could be blended and integrated into local culture.

"In fact, Indonesia's culture has accepted homosexuality. The homosexual group in Bugis-Makassar tradition called Bissu is respected and given a high position in the kingdom.

"Also, we know that in Ponorogo (East Java) there has been acknowledgement of homosexuality," Arus Pelangi head Rido Triawan said.

Condemnation of homosexuality was voiced by two conservative Muslim groups, the Indonesian Ulema Council (MUI) and Hizbut Thahir Indonesia (HTI).

"It's a sin. We will not consider homosexuals an enemy, but we will make them aware that what they are doing is wrong," MUI deputy chairman Amir Syarifuddin said.

Rokhmat, of the hardline HTI, several times asked homosexual participants in attendance to repent and force themselves to gradually return to the right path.

Abdul Khalik , The Jakarta Post , Jakarta | Fri, 03/28/2008 1:38 AM | Headlines

- Recognizes Homosexuality

About Underwear

History of Underwear

Underwear, also called "underpants," "lingerie", or "panties" (undergarments for women), or sometimes "intimate clothing", and "pants" or "knickers" in British English, are clothes worn next to the skin, usually under other clothes.

Ancient history

The loincloth is the simplest form of underwear; it was probably the first undergarment worn by human beings. A loincloth may take three major forms. The first, and simplest, is simply a long strip of material which is passed between the legs and then around the waist. The ancient Hawaiian malo was of this form, as are several styles of the Japanese fundoshi.

In warmer climates, the loincloth may be the only clothing worn (making it effectively not an undergarment), as was doubtlessly its origin, but in colder temperatures, the loincloth often forms the basis of a person's clothing and is covered by other garments. In most ancient civilizations, this was the only undergarment available (King Tutankhamun was buried with 145 of them).

Men are said to have worn loincloths in ancient Greece and Rome, though it is unclear whether Greek women wore undergarments. Mosaics of the Roman period indicate Roman women (primarily in an athletic context, whilst wearing nothing else) sometimes wore wrapped breastcloths or brassieres made of soft leather, along with loincloths and possibly something like panties.

Any cloth used may have been wool, linen or linsey-woolsey blend. Only the upper classes could have afforded imported silk.

Middle Ages and Renaissance

Male undergarments

In the Middle Ages, western men's underwear became looser fitting. The loincloth was replaced by loose, trouser-like clothing called braies, which the wearer stepped into and then laced or tied around the waist and legs at about mid-calf. Wealthier men often wore chausses as well, which only covered the legs.

By the Renaissance, the chausses became form-fitting like modern Hose, and the braies became shorter to accommodate longer styles of chausses. However, chausses and many braies designs were not intended to be covered up by other clothing, so they are not actually underwear in the strictest sense.

Braies were usually fitted with a flap in the front that buttoned or tied closed. This codpiece allowed men to urinate without having to remove the braies completely. Henry VIII of England began padding his own codpiece, which caused a spiraling trend of larger and larger codpieces that only ended by the end of the 16th century.

The modern men's shirt appeared during this era, but it was originally an undergarment. Men would wear this long shirt under their other clothing and pull the long piece up from the back and then put their braies on over the shirt. In this way the shirt acted as underwear. Renaissance noblemen also adopted the doublet, a vest-like garment tied together in the front and worn under other clothing.

Female undergarments

Medieval women usually wore a close-fitting garment called a chemise or sometimes a shift or smock, sometimes coupled with braies-like leg wrappings. They may have worn petticoats over the shift and under the dress. Quilted petticoats could be worn during the winter. Elaborately-quilted petticoats might be displayed by a cut-away dress, in which case they became a skirt rather than an undergarment.

During the 16th century, the farthingale was popular. This was a petticoat stiffened with reed or willow rods so that it stood out from a woman's body, like a cone extending from the waist.

The farthingale was later worn with a roll of stiffened material called a Bum Roll. The bum roll could be used to add more width to the body, whilst spreading skirt fullness evenly. The Bum Roll had tapes which enabled it to be tied to the waist, settling over the farthingale.

Corsets also began to be worn about this time. At first they were called pair of bodies, which may refer both to a stiffened bodice designed to be seen, and a bodice stiffened with buckram, reeds, canes, whalebone etc., worn underneath another, decorative, bodice. These were not the small-waisted, curvy corsets familiar from the Victorian period, but straight-lined corsets that flattened the bust.

Enlightenment and Industrial Age

The inventions of the spinning jenny machines and the cotton gin in the second half of the 18th century made cotton fabrics widely available. This allowed factories to mass-produce underwear, and for the first time, people began buying undergarments in stores rather than making them at home.

Women's stays of the 18th century were laced behind and drew the shoulders back to form a high, round bosom and erect posture. With the relaxed country styles of the end of the century, stays became shorter and were unboned or only lightly boned, and were now called corsets. Undue binding of a corset sometimes led to a woman needing to retire to the fainting room. Colored stays were fashionable.

As tight waists became fashionable in the 1820s, the corset was again boned and laced to form the figure. By the 1860s, a tiny ('wasp') waist came to be seen as a symbol of beauty, and the corsets were stiffened with whalebone or steel to accomplish this. By the 1880s, the dress reform movement was campaigning against the pain and damage to internal organs and bones caused by tight lacing.

Inez Gaches-Sarraute invented the Health corset, with a straight-fronted bust made to help support the muscles of the wearer. The corset was usually worn over a thin shirt-like garment of cotton or muslin called a shift.


As skirts became fuller from the 1830s, women wore a profusion of petticoats to achieve the fashionable bell shape. By the 1850s, stiffened crinolines and later hoop skirts allowed ever wider skirts to be worn. The bustle, a frame or pad worn over the buttocks to enhance their shape, had been used off and on by women for two centuries, but it reached the height of its popularity the later 1880s, and went out of fashion for good in the 1890s.

The standard undergarment of the late 19th century for men, women and children was the union suit, which provided coverage from the wrists to the ankles (this "second skin" style is more commonly known as long johns today). The union suits of the era were usually made of knitted material and included a drop flap in the back to ease visits to the toilet. Drawers for women were not generally worn until the mid-nineteenth century when the adoption of crinolines made them necessary for reasons of modesty and warmth.


The jockstrap was invented in 1874 by C. F. Bennett of a Chicago sporting goods company, Sharp & Smith, to provide comfort and support for bicycle jockeys riding the cobblestone streets of Boston. In 1897 Bennett's newly-formed Bike Web Company patented and began mass-producing the Bike Jockey Strap.

1900s

By the early 20th century, the mass-produced undergarment industry was booming, and competition forced producers to come up with all sorts of innovative and gimmicky designs to compete. The Hanes company emerged from this boom and quickly established itself as a top manufacturer of union suits. Textile technology continued to improve, and the time to make a single union suit dropped from days to minutes.

Meanwhile, designers of women's undergarments relaxed the corset. The invention of new, flexible but supportive materials allowed them to remove the whalebone and steel while still providing support. The emancipation or liberty bodice offered an alternative to constricting corsets, and in Australia and the United Kingdom, the liberty bodice became a standard item, for girls as well as women.

1910s

The increase in the number of underwear manufacturers necessitated the birth of undergarment advertising. The first underwear print advertisement in the United States ran in the Saturday Evening Post in 1911 and featured oil paintings by J.C. Leyendecker of the "Kenosha Klosed Krotch". Early underwear advertisements placed emphasis on durability and comfort; fashion was never a selling point.

By the end of the 1910s, Chalmers Knitting Company split the union suit into upper and lower sections, effectively inventing the modern undershirt and drawers. Women wore lacier versions of this basic duo known as the camisole and drawers.

In 1913, a New York socialite named Mary Phelps Jacob changed women's fashion forever when she cobbled the first brassiere together by tying two handkerchiefs together with ribbon. Jacob's original intention was to cover the whalebone sticking out of her corset, which was visible through her sheer dress. Jacob began making brassieres for her family and friends, and word of mouth soon spread about the garment.

By 1914, Jacob had a patent for her design and was marketing it throughout the United States. Although women had worn brassiere-like garments years past, Jacob's was the first to be successfully marketed and widely adopted.

By the end of the decade, trouser-like "bloomers" (popularized by Amelia Jenks Bloomer 1818-1894 but invented by Elizabeth Smith Miller) gained popularity with the so-called Gibson girls who enjoyed more athletic pursuits such as bicycling and tennis. This new female athleticism helped push the corset out of style, as well.

1920s

In the 1920s, manufacturers shifted emphasis from durability to comfort. Union suit ads raved about "patented" new designs that reduced the number of buttons and increased accessibility. Most of these experimental designs had to do with new ways to hold closed the crotch flap common on most union suits and drawers. A new woven cotton fabric called nainsook gained popularity in the 1920s for its durability. Retailers also began selling preshrunk undergarments.

Women's bloomers became much shorter and stockings covered the legs instead. The shorter bloomers became looser and less supportive as the boyish flapper look came into fashion. By the end of the decade, they came to be known as step-ins, very much like modern panties but with wider legs, worn for the increased flexibility they afforded.

As dancing became a favorite pastime of young flappers, the garter belt was invented to keep stockings from falling. Nevertheless, the increased sexuality of the flapper also made underwear sexier than ever before. It was the flappers who ushered in the era of lingerie.

1930s

Meanwhile, other modern men's underwear was largely an invention of the 1930s. On January 19, 1935, Coopers Inc. sold the world's first briefs in Chicago. The company placed a Y-shaped front and overlapping fly on knitted drawers in both short and long styles. They dubbed the design the "jockey" since it offered a degree of support that had previously only been available from the jockstrap.

Companies began selling buttonless drawers fitted with an elastic waistband, the first true boxer shorts (named for their resemblance to the shorts worn by professional fighters).

1940s

During World War II, elastic waistbands and metal snaps gave way once again to button fasteners due to rubber and metal shortages. Undergarments were harder to find, as well, since soldiers abroad had priority to get them.

Meanwhile, some women readopted the corset once again, now called the waspie for the wasp-shaped waistline it gave the wearer. Many women began wearing the strapless bra, as well, which gained popularity for its ability to push the breasts up and enhance cleavage.

1950s and 1960s

In the 1950s, underwear manufacturers began marketing printed and colored garments. What had once been a simple, white piece of clothing not to be shown in public suddenly became a fashion statement. The manufacturers also experimented with rayon and newer fabrics like dacron and nylon.

By 1960, men's underwear was regularly printed in loud patterns or with images ranging from messages to cartoon characters.

Women's undergarments began to emphasize the breasts instead of the waist in the 1950s. The decade saw the introduction of the bullet bra, which featured pointed cups.

Meanwhile, women's panties had become even more colorful and decorative, and by the mid-Sixties were also available in two smaller, more abbreviated styles called the hip-hugger and the bikini (after the island of that name), frequently in sheer nylon fabric.

Pantyhose, also called "tights" in British English, which combined panties and hose into one garment, made their first appearance in 1959, invented by Glen Raven Mills of North Carolina. The company later introduced seamless pantyhose in 1965, spurred by the popularity of the miniskirt. By the end of this decade, the girdle had fallen out of favor as women chose sexier and lighter alternatives.

1970s till the present day

Underwear as fashion matured in the 1970s and 1980s, and underwear advertisers forgot about comfort and durability, at least in advertising. Sex appeal became the main selling point, in swimwear as well, bringing to fruition a trend that had been building since at least the flapper era (underwear is the last barrier before nudity, and thus it acts as a sort of gatekeeper to sex).

Tank tops, an undershirt type named after the Tank suit swimwear which dates from the 1920s, have been popular warm-weather casual wear in the United States since the 1980s and are regarded as acceptable public casual dress in most locales there.

Later, in the 1990s, hip hop stars would popularize a similar style, known as the Sag, which allowed loosely fitting blue jeans or shorts to droop low, exposing the underwear.

Although it was worn for decades by exotic dancers, the g-string first gained popularity in South America, particularly in Brazil. It was originally a style of swimsuit made so that the back of the suit is so thin that it disappears between the buttocks.

By the 1990s, the design had made its way to most of the Western World, and thong underwear became popular. Today, thong underwear is one of the fastest selling styles available among women and is even gaining some popularity among men.

Origin of G-string

G-string or thong is probably the earliest form of clothing known to mankind; having originated in the warmer climates of sub-Saharan Africa where clothing was first worn nearly 75,000 years ago. Many tribal peoples, such as some of the Khoisan people of southern Africa, wore thongs for many centuries. Much like the 2000-plus-year-old Japanese fundoshi, these early garments were made with the male genitalia in mind.

Although developed for the male anatomy by primitive peoples, in the modern West thongs are more often worn by females. They first gained mainstream popularity as swimwear in South America, particularly in Brazil in the 1970s.

In Brazil, where the buttocks ("bunda" in Brazilian Portuguese slang) are especially admired and emphasized; it was originally a style of thong swimsuit whose rear area became so narrow that it would disappear between the wearer's buttocks. Female strippers and erotic dancers in the west have been wearing G-strings and thongs during their routines since the mid-1920s.

Men's underwear, 1990s to the present

Men's underwear styles in the present day have seen a dramatic shift in style when compared to the evolution of female styles in underwear. While women's underwear continued to emphasize feminine sexuality, around the late 1980s and early 1990s; particularly in the United States, men's underwear styles began to deemphasize sexuality, in favor of baggier and looser styles. This trend also became evident in swimwear, which grew longer and looser in this period as well as all other fashions which also became consciously baggier and less form fitting.


Not wearing undergarments

Not wearing undergarments under one's outer clothing is also known in American slang as freeballing for men or freebuffing for females; the terms going commando and going bareback are also used for both sexes. This trend shows that a few consider underwear unnecessary for hygiene, especially for modern people who bathe every day.

In situations where a certain amount of body coverage is required (legally or socially), people who prefer to go clothes free might enjoy not wearing undergarments, as that is the closest they can get to nudity. For others, there may be sexual motives; undergarments are the final physical barrier to sex, and not wearing them might be arousing.

Underwear exposed above trousers and not wearing it

Underwear is sometimes partly exposed above the trousers when sitting, bending over, etc., or permanently. This depends on the style of trousers (see also sagging, low-rise jeans, hip-hugger), the style of underwear, and the way they are worn. It may be accidental or deliberate. When women wearing thong underwear expose themselves in this way, it is sometimes called a "whale tail".

- About Underwear

Man's Parfume

Perfumes For Men

When it comes to creating long lasting impression on women, the first thing men choose is class fragrances for men. Modern men wear perfumes as an indication of their style and passion. Perfumes for men speak about the wearer's attitude and defines a fashion statement for him. The market is flooded with a variety of cologne man perfumes. When it comes to accessorizing wardrobe, designer scents for guys occupy a supreme position.

Cologne perfumes have a higher concentration of alcohol. The terms 'perfume' and 'cologne' are often considered to be synonymous. But in reality they are different and the basic differentiation lies in the ratio of alcohol water base. When compared to colognes, perfumes are on a higher side in terms of essential oils. Also their fragrance retains for a long time and is more effective and prominent.

A diverse variety of elegant fragrance perfumes are stored in shopping malls and is among the top hot shopping list of men of all age groups. The gamut of scents is pretty extensive and encompasses price friendly mass fragrances to luxury prestigious fragrances and hip hop style celebrity fragrances. The specialty of mass fragrances lies in the fact that its like a double bonanza offer with a combo of high quality and reasonable price. The packaging is also good enough to lure people into trying it. Some good examples are Adidas and Revlon.

Prestigious fragrances are more of a status symbol indicative of richness and royalty. The popular names in this catalog are: Obsession, Pink, and Desire. They contain special ingredients for which people are ready to pay any amount. Celebrity fragrances are selling like real hot cakes. These scents are endorsed by people's favorite celebrities like Brittany Spears who make these products popular among people owing to their charismatic qualities. Glow and Curious are two such famous names in the list of celebrity fragrances. So, go make your own fashion style with your unique fragrance.

- Man's Parfume

Men's Jeans For Body Type

How To Find The Right Jeans For Different Men Body Type

Here is a jeans-shopping guide that will provide some tips on how to find the right jeans for different men body type. Read them and decide the men's jeans for your body type.

Baggy Jeans - highly funky and stylish, these Baggies are a great comfort to wear. You can wear them while having an evening walk with friends. It is the perfect choice for the Saturday cool buddy party. But this type is best for those men who are blessed with perfect physique and a good height who do not need to hide any physical flaws. But for overweight men, its not the right choice as it gives a further fatter look.

Carpenter/Worker Style - this is the type ideally meant for carrying out activities but anyways this style is no more to be seen. Only if you plan to take up the job of a carpenter, you can pick up one such pair otherwise it doesn't make much of sense.

Relaxed/Loose Fit Style - well the specialty of these jeans is that it's a combo of great comfort and a sleek look. They are apt for the relaxed Sunday mood. But remember too loose can give you a funny look and added to it will make you appear shorter and skinnier.

Boot Cut Jeans - the best part is that they give you a slimmer look. They are ideal to flatter your perfect body and just too good for an evening date. It will surely cast magic on your girlfriend and you'll find that she's totally impressed and that is what you want, right? So, now you know the trick. Don't get lured by the latest fashion jeans, but see what suits you and goes well in embellishing your personality.

- Men's Jeans For Body Type

Man Clothing Tips

Clothing Style Tips For Men

Here are some clothing style tips for men that will provide guidelines regarding the right man fashion clothing for different body type. These man-clothing tips can be a great help in adorning you but you must follow the advice seriously.

Short waist men should avoid wearing trousers / jeans at waist. Low waist jeans are not the right type for you. Tucking your top would not be a very good option. Pullovers are apt for your personality. Short lengthy tank tops are a total no because they tend to highlight your short waist. Contrast concept wont look very good as it would interfere with the vertical flow. So a combo of pink shirt and black trouser should not be chosen. Ask your tailor to keep an inch higher on waist while taking measurement.


Long waist men need to do things the other way round when compared to short waisted guys. Guys your perfect fashion style is low waist jeans with a contrasting shade T-shirt tucked inside. Double breast jacket is just ideal for you so as to prevent people's eyes from falling particularly on your legs. So boys now are you understanding how to divert people's attention? Opt for belts with a big buckle.

Men with flat butts should firstly make sure that they wear proper fit pants. Straight leg trousers are just perfect for you because they divert the attention from back and camouflage your body feature. On the contrary there are men with big butts. For them it's important to wear proper undergarments, which includes biking shorts & boxer briefs as they tightly hold your body. Attire low waist pleated flat front trousers, as they would go well with your personality.

If you have a large belly, your wardrobe should have a combination of light fabric and dark color. Light shades tend to accentuate your big belly. You should make it a point to wear a vest as it prevents loose skin flow from taking place. Long sleeve T-shirt is the right kind for you. Avoid low waist jeans.


Even if you are dressed in ethnic clothing there are many options available with you but again as mentioned earlier all types are not meant for you.

Shorter men and fleshy guys should wear knee long kurtas. Tall guys can opt for calf length kurta also.

So guys by now you must have got a clear idea as to what would suit you so follow these tips and disguise your bad body features. We hope that next time you go shopping you'll be focused as to what you want & not get lured by styling or designing of apparel.

- Man Clothing Tips

Bisexuality Myths

Myths About Bisexuality
By Nathalie Himmelrich

Bisexuality is the potential to feel sexually attracted to and to engage in sensual or sexual relationships with people of either sex. A bisexual person may not be equally attracted to both sexes, and a degree of attraction may vary over time. This form of sexuality has created a lot of misconception and myth that need to be clarified:

These myths can be observed in the reactions towards bisexuals:
Straight male's reactions: Homophobic, hate and fear both bisexual and gay men, victimize, harass and are physically violent. Straight women's reactions: Towards bisexual men: Misguided fears about AIDS, 'stop sitting on the fence and make up your mind' attitude.

Towards bisexual women: fear they will make sexual overtures and try to 'convert' them to being bisexual.
Gay male's reactions: Bisexual men are really gay, but are in denial, should make up their mind and 'just get over it'.Lesbian's reactions: Distrust, 'sleeping with the enemy', betraying their allegiance to women and feminism, and hanging onto heterosexual privileges through relationship with men.The myths seem to be changing slowly. People have started to question the notion that sexuality has to be labeled.

For those of us whose sexuality doesn't fit neatly into a box it's all very encouraging. As sexologist Alfred Kinsey pointed out, many people's orientation lies somewhere between the extremes of gay and straight. Enforcing simplified categories is claustrophobic, dangerous and inaccurate. It reeks of separatism and results in lying about sexual preference in order to avoid stigma. Too bad if you want to experiment or if - shock horror - you suddenly change your mind.

Bisexuality challenges concepts of sexuality, traditional relationship and family structures, monogamy, gender, and identity. Bisexuals cannot conform or they would not be bisexual. Instead they must re-invent personal ethics and values for themselves, and create responsible lifestyles and relationships that serve their needs even though they do not fit anyone else's rules.

Nathalie Himmelrich is the founder of 'Reach for the Sky Therapy' on Sydney's Northern Beaches and specialises in 'relationship related issues'. She is working with individuals and couples using techniques ranging from Counselling, Neuro Linguistic Programming to Journey Therapy. She supports clients in their personal growth in a supportive and professional environment.

- Bisexuality Myths

Bisexual Dating

What is Bisexual Dating?
By Renato Pastorizo

One would do well to not confuse bisexuality with being gay or vice versa because bisexuality is truly a valid sexuality on its own. Bisexual people are completely different from bi-curious people who are usually heterosexuals that are interested only in "experimentation" to perk up their dull sex lives. This is fine and their right to do so, but it clouds the line of bisexuality for others that simply do not understand bisexuals or bisexual dating. It is a good thing then, that the media and internet have offered some rapid help in this arena with online bisexual dating sites. These sites are just for people interested in matchmaking with other bisexuals whether for a serious and long term commitment or just for a fun evening on some lonely night.

It used to be very hard for bisexuals to find dates without going to either straight or gay bars and just trying their luck, not knowing whether the person they were interested in would accept the fact that they were bisexual or turn them away. Many people on both sides of the fence (gay or straights) have a hard time with believing bisexuality is ligament and this creates big problems for bisexuals wishing to date. The web is now just filled with both free and commercial bisexual dating sites that offer such features to their members, such as chat, webcams, blogs, forums and instant messaging. No matter what their features the most important thing is that they offer safety and reliability to their members.

Most profiles on bidating sites are easily sorted through by location, sex and age and also by things like exactly what an individual is looking for and education and hobbies. Many also have great, detailed profiles so you can learn as much as you want about a person before deciding to talk to them or meet with them in person. Many websites that once catered to only straight couples are now including bisexuality in their list of searchable terms; this greatly increases the chance of a bisexual finding that perfect date. Much like any dating venue this can be a hard task and finding the right partner can take time and energy as well as lead to some possible disappointment.

The best bet for a bisexual however is to keep a profile at a large and regularity visited bisexual dating site and to post frequently there. It also helps to have a blog to link to on your profile such as one from Myspace or Facebook, this helps the other members see you are a real person and not a fake profile like so many that pop up on all sorts of dating sites. Keeping with a bisexual only dating site can help you find people that will not judge you and have gathered onto this bisexual dating site for the same reason you have. To find a match and have some sort of relationship with them. So if you are a bisexual looking for your dream date, try a bisexual dating site for a fun or serious time with a great bisexual single like yourself.

- Bisexual Dating

To Save a Marriage If You Have a Bisexual Spouse

How to Save a Marriage If You Have a Bisexual Spouse
By Wendy R

Having a bisexual spouse is not that uncommon. Sexuality is not always a cut-and-dry matter. Sometimes a man or a woman could marry a heterosexual spouse, yet still maintain homosexual or bisexual feelings. Occasionally, this is due to wanting to maintain a straight persona for the public. Other times, it's because they have genuine love for their partner, (despite being gay on the inside). Yet, despite it all, at some point they may have to reveal their true feelings. And when this happens, the other party may wonder if their marriage can even be saved at all.

Well, approximately 20% of marriages involving heterosexuals and gay or a bisexual spouse that have made it through the storm. So, contrary to what some believe, it is possible for mixed-orientation marriages to thrive. But how can they do this, especially considering the situation?

Well, first off, just because a person is gay doesn't mean they have to sleep with everyone they come in contact with. Sure, they may meet a person that they're very attracted to, but they can still forgo temptation in hopes of keeping their marriage together.

In fact, this scenario is VERY common among heterosexual couples. Despite being married, men or women may find other people sexually attractive. However, they don't act on those feelings because they know it's wrong.

But in a mixed-orientation relationship, the temptation could be stronger. That's why both parties need to explore why the bisexual spouse feels this way. How a couple does this will depend on their personal preferences and religious background. Very religious mixed-orientation couples may try to use conversion therapy to forego homosexual temptation. Others may actually allow the gay spouse to have homosexual relationships outside of the marriage.I

personally don't agree with either of these approaches. Why? Well, the religious approach may make the gay spouse feel bad about themselves, while the other approach advocates affairs, (a game that often carries both physical and emotional consequences). Ultimately, I believe that if a person is considering having an affair, gay or straight, they need to get out of the marriage.

On the other end of the spectrum, I do believe that the gay spouse's sexual feelings need to be addressed. Porn and/or erotica can help in this endeavor because it doesn't result in any romantic attachments. Sex therapy may also help address these issues, especially if the heterosexual spouse feels they are unable to satisfy their partner. But once these feelings manifests into physical actions with another person, there are bound to be problems, which is why I would say stay away from that avenue altogether. While it is acceptable identifying oneself as a bisexual spouse, it is not acceptable to break one's marriage vows.

Don't let a bisexual spouse ruin your marriage. You can get through it and get on with your marriage.

- To Save a Marriage If You Have a Bisexual Spouse

Gay Super-Couples

Top 10 Qualities of Gay Super-Couples

By Brian Rzepczynski

Introduction

So what makes a healthy and lasting long-term gay relationship successful? Our society certainly doesn't make it easy for us as gay men to date and mate with all the homophobia and discrimination that exists. Though this is slowly starting to change in many parts of the world, man-to-man love continues to be stigmatized and this backdrop of cultural oppression and hatred can put a strain on a gay couple's budding relationship that many heterosexual pairs may take for granted.

As a gay community, we lack adequate and visible positive role models of gay couples that provide hope for lasting relationship success. As men, we've been conditioned to define our masculinity in rigid and narrow ways as part of the socialization process growing up and this can create conflict when pairing up two individuals of the same gender looking for intimacy and emotional connection. And then we have our own layers of discrimination and pressure in our own gay community that at times can leave gay couples feeling unsupported and uninspired to achieve relationship longevity in the one place they thought they'd be safe-among their own.

While the odds do seem to be stacked against us in the fight for the dream of claiming our rightful husband with the accompanying house, white picket fence, and prideful rainbow flag securely attached to the front porch, they don't have to be obstacles to our success. Having to face so much adversity has actually enabled many of us to be quite resilient in the face of stress and makes us good candidates for partnerships with the right focus and determination. There are many gay men in long-term relationships who can vouch for their fulfillment of this dream and speak of happiness and bliss in their coupled status. But what are the ingredients that make a healthy gay relationship?

Characteristics of Successful Gay Couples

There is no specific blueprint or formula for how to maintain a lasting and successful relationship. One of the beauties of being gay is that we can create our own definitions of what constitutes an ideal relationship for ourselves as we are not hampered down by restrictive gender roles and norms like our heterosexual counterparts. Each couple develops their own unique partnership that works for them. That being said, there are some universal qualities that can promote a more solid and functional relationship over the long haul for partners seeking long-term connection and happiness.

Successful gay couples can exhibit some of the following ...

1. They share compatible interests and philosophies of life

It's important that partners have similar interests and hobbies to share in common to build experiences with together, but it's also essential to have some differences as well to complement each other. This helps to keep the mystery and intrigue alive in the relationship that exists with contrast. Who wants to have an exact replica of themselves that they interact with on a daily basis?! Boring! What is absolutely critical, however, is that both partners will have a smoother and more fulfilling relationship if they share comparable value systems. This forms the foundation of what the couple believes in and is the diving board from which they co-create a vision for their future together as a united front and alliance for life.

2. They openly communicate with each other and stay engaged in each other's lives

This involves direct and honest dialogue about the mundane aspects of life to the serious thoughts and feelings that get triggered as a part of relationship dynamics. The partners create a climate in their home where each feels safe and comfortable sharing vulnerable aspects of themselves with each other and are attuned to each other's needs. Listening skills are primed and each feels like an active participant in the relationship. Issues are not swept under the rug and are dealt with immediately in an assertive and caring way.

3. They manage conflict productively

Healthy gay couples recognize that conflict is an inevitable and normal part of a relationship, seeing these "rough spots" as opportunities for growth and positive change in their partnership. They deal with their anger in constructive ways, avoid hurtful comments and assigning of blame, and take the time to understand and validate each other's points of views before initiating collaborative problem-solving to try and reach a win/win solution. They are open to compromise and sacrifice and always keep a teamwork stance in negotiating their differences.

4. They have a balanced lifestyle comprised of both individual and couple identities

In relationships it's important to have time devoted to nourishing the relationship and also to focus on individual interests and pursuits. Too much "couple identity" causes both partners to feel suffocated. Too much "individual identity" creates a feeling of being disconnected and living as roommates. Striking a positive balance of both brings in just enough freshness and vitality to the relationship where boundaries are strong and healthy. Each partner feels supported by the other for striving for their own personal growth and goals without feeling threatened because the relationship vision is also being attended to simultaneously.

5. They have fun with life and try not to take things so seriously

Life can be stressful, so why add to the tension with a hardened demeanor? Successful couples are those that are playful with each other, enjoy a humorous banter between the two of them, and feel energized by such things as tickling, cracking jokes, pulling pranks on each other, and being perverted with each other. All things are done in a loving way and this approach to their interactivity creates an atmosphere of laughter and celebration for being in each other's lives.

6. They enjoy a sensual and sexual camaraderie that helps them to meet their erotic potential

The happiest couples tend to report enjoying nonsexual affection in their daily lives through spontaneous touch, verbal strokes, holding hands, cuddling, and massage. They also understand the importance of maintaining a passionate sexual connection through regular pleasuring sessions and keeping their erotic lives energetic and enjoyable. Even for those couples in "open relationships", the sexual relationship with their partner remains an important component of intimacy for them and they find ways to meet each other's needs, even when one isn't necessarily in the mood.

7. They have a supportive network of family and friends who honor their relationship

Having the backing and encouragement of loved ones can be a great impetus for reinforcing a gay couple's commitment. Surrounding themselves with positive and affirming people can be a great boost.

8. They are comfortable with their sexuality and not afraid to show it

Sexual identity struggles and internalized homophobia can really drag a relationship down unless both men tend to be in the same boat with their levels of outness. Confident and successful gay couples are comfortable being in relationship with each other no matter the setting or public domain. Whether it's trying out a mattress at the local bedding store or attending a social function in a mixed-orientation crowd, these couples feel secure enough in their identities and relationship to combat any potential homophobia they may face by proudly being themselves. Being able to be free and uninhibited is a truly liberating feeling for a gay couple.

9. They possess the following in their partnership: trust, commitment, honesty, openness, flexibility, loyalty, dedication and devotion, quality time, sensitivity, nonjudgmental attitudes, loving and unafraid to express their feelings and passionate side, etc.

These are obvious hallmark characteristics that typify a healthy relationship, but gay men in particular are vulnerable to power struggles, competition, and issues surrounding intimacy and closeness due to male socialization in their man-to-man relationships. Successful couples are aware of these pitfalls and work hard to embrace a holistic masculinity that counters the stereotypes they've been engrained with.

10. They place a high premium on their lives together and are focused on not taking each other for granted

Successful gay couples realize that the busyness of life can very easily put their relationship on the back shelf, but they don't let it! They ensure that they devote quality time together, schedule special "date nights" with each other, and are attentive to each other's needs. They make sure they are diligently working toward their shared relationship vision, validate their partner in the ways he likes it most, and make sure to show through words and actions how much they appreciate their guy being in their lives.

Conclusion

So how did you and your partner do? These are only some of the qualities that comprise a healthy gay relationship and it's up to you and your man to define the parameters of what that would look and feel like for your unique relationship. Use these tips as a springboard to discuss how things are going in your relationship to gauge your strengths and areas for growth and craft an action plan to make things even better between the two of you.

© 2009 Brian L. Rzepczynski

- Gay Super-Couples

Tips on Gay Flirting

Some Nice Tips on Gay Flirting

By Francis K. Githinji

Flirting is fun for everyone and the gay community has not been left behind. Just like in any relationship where by it starts off with flirting, most gay relationships also start this way. There are various ways that you can flirt and get someone who is interested in you to flirt with you. Compliments have always worked and if you used them correctly, they will not let you down. If you see something in the person you like throw a compliment his way. It could be about his smile, the way he is dressed, anything. Just make sure you get it right and you do not go complimenting him on something that is definitely not good, if he does not have a good sense of humor, you will end up with a black eye and gay flirting will not have worked for you.

Hold the person's eyes when gay flirting. The eyes always communicate more, they tell the person that you are since. A simple look at the person will mean that you like them and it could also be a welcome. Tell the person you have taken a liking to that you do by flirting with them with the eyes. This is how you should do it, look at the person longer than you would, make sure you are looking at his eyes, and then slowly move to any other part of the body when you are sure that you have got his attention. This way, he will know for sure that you like them and you would like to get to know them better or that you would like to be in a relationship with them.


When talking to the person and you intend to flirt with him, whisper to him. Tell the person anything in a whisper. This way you will capture his attention more than you would if you talked to him in a leveled voice. When gay flirting match the tone of your voice to his or try to mimic the person you are talking to. That is, try to talk like the person who is talking to you. This way, you will make the person feel like you admire them. We all do that, try to imitate the person we admire and love, we will talk like them and even sometimes walk like them.

Do not ever try to make any sexual advances on your first day of gay flirting. If you have been flirting for a while it is okay to do that but if you have never met before any sexual advance you make will not be welcomed. Do not try it at all. Flirt with everything else you got and using any skill that have acquired or you were born with because flirting is just one of those things that human beings were born with but what ever you do keep any sexual advances to yourself. Go ahead and flirt today, get yourself that person you have been admiring for ages or that person you just saw across the room that you have suddenly felt something special on him. Do not be shy, however do not also be cocky it will not do you any good.

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- Tips on Gay Flirting

Daniel Radcliffe Biography

The Complete Biography of Harry Potter's Role

By Claire; Edited by Coralie, Mary and Jenna

In The Beginning ....

Daniel Jacob Radcliffe was born on 23rd July 1989 in the London suburb of Fulham. From the tender age of five, Dan expressed an interest in acting, although his early experience was limited to playing a monkey in a school production. (Today, Dan’s perspective on his first role today is "I hope no one ever finds any pictures of that!"). He became officially involved in the acting profession "by accident".

He had missed out on auditioning for a part in a television production of Charles Dickens' Oliver Twist - his parents didn't think it would be a very good idea - but he was destined to make his small screen debut as another of Dickens' famous titular characters: David Copperfield, starring alongside Maggie Smith and Bob Hoskins.

"A friend suggested that I audition, as a bit of fun, for the role of David Copperfield. I never expected to actually get the part as I knew there would be hundreds of boys trying for it, so when I did, it came as a huge surprise."

The annual Christmas BBC period drama is very popular in the UK and this 1999 adaptation of the classic novel was particularly well received. Copperfield producer Kate Harwood had these comments after working with Dan:

"He has a particular quality of naturalness and innocence. One normally dreads working with child actors, but in his case he was wonderful. He has a great deal of charm and simplicity."

Dan followed up his appearance in "David Copperfield" by taking a small part, to gain some experience, in the film "The Tailor of Panama" released in March 2001. He played Mark Pendel, the son of Harry and Louisa Pendel, who were played by Geoffrey Rush and Jamie Lee Curtis. While the filming was taking place, a major talent search was underway in the UK to find someone to portray a certain popular literary character and Curtis was struck by a particular insight:

"One day I was looking at Daniel, who was standing beside the swimming pool. I turned to his mother and said: 'He could be Harry Potter.' "

The Role Of A Lifetime

It was Dan's "charm and simplicity" that caught the eye of Chris Columbus and David Heyman whilst on the search for a young British actor to bring to life the lead character of what is arguably the modern literary world's most successful phenomenon: Harry Potter. This was going to be no mean feat for whoever won the role and superb casting of the part was, of course, vital to the film. Director Columbus had seen a tape of "David Copperfield" and had badgered his casting director into calling its young star in for an audition.

However, Dan's understandably protective parents were reluctant to subject their son to any gruelling audition process only to have his hopes dashed and so the life-altering role was at first turned down. But serendipity smiled down on Dan one evening in a theatre: producer David Heyman and screenwriter Steve Kloves spotted him with his parents in the audience while watching the play 'Stones in his Pockets'. Heyman knew Dan's father through business connections and introduced himself to Dan during the interval. He then spent the second half of the play totally distracted by his potential Harry.

The next morning, Heyman called Dan's parents to try to persuade them to change their minds about letting him audition and... discovered that they had already had the same idea! They agreed to an informal meeting between Dan and David Heyman and, once they were confident that he would be protected as much as possible from the media glare if offered the role, agreed that Dan should go for an audition. Then one night while taking a bath, Dan heard his father answer the phone:

"My dad came in and told me I'd got the part of Harry Potter. I cried, I was so happy. I woke up in the middle of the night, around half two, and I woke up my dad too, just to check with him that it wasn't all a dream. That I really was going to be Harry Potter."

The casting of Dan, Rupert Grint and Emma Watson in the lead roles of Harry Potter, Ron Weasley and Hermione Granger was subsequently announced in August 2000. Importantly, Potter author Joanne (JK) Rowling gave Dan her seal of approval - when she saw Dan's screen test, she claimed that she felt that "it was like being reunited with [her] long-lost son":

"Having seen Dan Radcliffe's screen test I don't think Chris Columbus could have found a better Harry... I think Dan nailed it, and I am really pleased."
Production of "Harry Potter and the Philosopher's (Sorcerer's) Stone" began in September 2000 and the worldwide interest in the film was unprecedented. It was released on 16th November 2001 and was praised widely for its faithful adaptation of Rowling's book, going on to become the second-highest grossing film of all time, behind "Titanic". Also praised widely was its young star ("... a wonderful Harry... young Radcliffe is perfect as Harry... seems to have been born to play the part...") who found himself on the cover of practically every entertainment magazine of the moment. Numerous TV appearances in the UK and US followed and curious audiences began to discover the boy behind the lightning-bolt scar. Fan sites began to spring up across the Internet. A star was born.

Into The Chamber

Filming of the sequel, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets", began a mere three days after the first film was released. Frequently described as "a lot darker, a lot scarier... and a lot funnier" than the first film, "Chamber of Secrets" was more of a straightforward action movie and received generally positive reviews when it was released on 15th November 2002. History repeated itself as the film smashed transatlantic box office records and it is currently the ninth-highest grossing film of all time.

Those who worked with Dan on the film have lavished praise on him. Kenneth Branagh has spoken of his joy in working with such a well-balanced young cast. The special effects team were amazed by Dan’s ability to act convincingly opposite a ball on a stick in the scenes involving Dobby the House Elf, before the CGI creature was added. Chris Columbus, speaking after the release of "Chamber of Secrets", was more precise:

"What used to take eight or nine takes, now we do it in two or three. Particularly Dan. He has almost become a mini action hero. He is really strong and I like that strength about him because Harry Potter needs to develop that strength... He is incredibly focused. I've seen actors twice his age who couldn't give as convincing a performance."

After the promotional whirl of the UK and US, Dan took a little time out from promoting the film to make his West End stage debut in November 2002 in "The Play What I Wrote", directed by Kenneth Branagh. The play, which is a tribute to former top British comedy duo Morecambe and Wise, has a different surprise guest every night and makes them perform a humorous sketch. Says Dan of his experiences:

"It was great fun. I had never been on stage before so it was a little scary at first but it certainly gave me the desire to do more on stage."

Something Wicked This Way Comes

The majority of 2003 was taken up with the filming of "Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban". In preparation, new director Alfonso Cuaron (who has a "much more laid back, emotional, intense way of directing") had Dan, Rupert and Emma write essays on their characters, which Dan found useful. An excellent interview by TLC editor Melissa Anelli quotes Dan as listening to music to prepare for particular scenes, and having lengthy conversations with his father regarding his life experiences in order to portray the passionate emotions that Harry displays in the book.

"There's a lot of teenage angst in this one, probably more than the book. It's much more of an internal journey for the children, especially for Harry. And he's much more comfortable with confrontation, especially with Snape. He's a lot angrier. If you had all this stuff happening to you in real life, you'd be pretty angry too."

The third film was a special experience for Dan since one of his idols, Gary Oldman, was tapped to play the role of Sirius Black, the Prisoner of Azkaban. As always, Dan and his costars received praise from the director and producers for their work. Director Alfonso Cuaron observed that he was most fortunate to come into the series with the three young stars established in their roles: “It was so clear how suited these kids are to play their characters.” Chris Columbus added that “it’s a sense of real pride to see that these kids have become such accomplished professional actors. It’s like seeing your own children up on screen.”

"Prisoner of Azkaban" was released on 4th June 2004 winning praise from critics as the best Potter film yet. Even though it was a darker gloomier film under Cuaron’s direction, the third movie continued the winning Potter tradition by grossing nearly $800 million worldwide, placing it currently at sixteenth in worldwide box-office receipts.

The Triwizard Tournament

"Dark and difficult times lie ahead, Harry. Soon we must all face the choice between what is right... and what is easy." (Albus Dumbledore). Even before the release of Prisoner of Azkaban, production had begun in the spring of 2004 on the next film, “Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire.” Directed by Mike Newell (Four Weddings and a Funeral, Mona Lisa Smile), this film promised to be the most exciting installment yet. Since 'Goblet' was a highly action packed thriller that centers on an elaborate contest know as the Tri-Wizard Tournament, the physical requirements were much tougher this time around. For a scene taking place during the second task of the Tournament, Dan actually had to learn to scuba-dive and then act underwater. During the battle with the dragon, Dan’s stunts included a 50 foot drop off a rocky embankment.

And to insure that 'Goblet' is the ultimate action thriller, Harry has to bleed! Dan admits that "there is even blood flowing!" But he reassures his fans with a well placed quip and a grin:

"Of course it´s not my own, but film blood! However, I did cut my fingers on a page of the script. That hurt like hell!"

Aside from the action, there are also fresh acting opportunities for Dan as he endures a long feud with his best friend, seeks a date for the Yule Ball, learns to dance and faces his resurrected nemesis. On the awkwardness of a boy’s first crush, he jokes that “when I was 14, you know, I was slightly better than Harry but not much… when I was with a girl, I had to say really clever things and the more you try to be clever, the more chance you have of looking stupid!”

About a climactic scene in which Harry hands over the body of a fellow contestant to the boy's father after battling his mortal foe, Lord Voldemort, Dan says: "I had to tap into emotions that I personally never felt, that most people have never felt. Because they were challenging, it does make them fun."

The fourth movie in the Harry Potter series, "Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire", released on 18 November 2005 was another rousing success with the young stars holding their own in scenes with some of the UK’s leading actors including Ralph Fiennes and Brendon Gleeson. The movie outperformed the 2nd and 3rd films in the series to bring in nearly $900 million at the box office placing it at number seven on the all time box office total worldwide.

First Kiss

Potter fans worldwide have long anticipated Harry’s first onscreen kiss in the fifth installment of the series, "Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix," directed by David Yates, scheduled for release in June of 2007. Dan surprised and delighted fans by accepting a part between Potter films in the screen adaptation of the Michael Noonan novel, December Boys, directed by Ron Hardy (The Sullivans).

Dan plays the role of one of four orphaned boys in 1960’s Australia, competing for the attention of a possible adoptive family. Interest in the novel and in the film have exploded since Dan signed on for the role, his first outside the Harry Potter franchise since 2001. Fan excitement has peaked ever more by the news that Dan will have his first onscreen kiss in this movie with actress Teresa Palmer. His perspective on that special moment is simply this...

“My first kiss in the movie was fantastic. But in real life, I’m not very good with women, like Harry Potter, but you know, any boy who says he’s never felt awkward around a girl is lying.”

In an official press release for the film, Richard Becker, of Becker Entertainment, had this to say about Dan:

“Daniel is an actor with talent and intelligence beyond his years. He can step into any role and deliver a brilliant performance. December Boys is a compelling and charming story reminiscent of Stand By Me. It appears audiences continue to seek films with heart and meaning and I believe that December Boys has that special quality. We are thrilled that Daniel has chosen it as his next starring vehicle."

The movie was filmed in Australia from November 2005 to January 2006 to avoid conflict with the production of "Order of the Phoenix" which began shortly thereafter. "December Boys" is scheduled for release in December 2006 in the United States, Australia and the UK.

Dark Horse

Daniel took on a role in the controversial play "Equus" at the Gielgud Theatre in London early 2007. He portrayed 17 year-old Alan Strang, who is sent to a hospital to undergo psychological treatment after blinding six horses. There he teaches his doctor (Richard Griffiths) the true meaning of passion and belief. The audience lives within Strang's unique psychosis and in turn finds a passion and spiritual awakening of its own through his madness.

Daniel really set the tone of the production with an amazing performance, proving once and for all he is more than just "Harry Potter". Throughout the entire show Radcliffe was well poised, well spoken, in character and emotionally charged. He hit every mark spot on; he portrayed the right balance between insanity and reverence, spirituality and emptiness, awakening and shutting down; it just all clicked in one go. He definitely struck the right balance on stage.

Daniel says about the play, "It was one of those things where I think any 17 year-old boy with aspirations to act for the rest of their lives...if they were offered that part in that production being directed by Thea Sharrock, and next to Richard Griffiths, you’d be really stupid to say no! It's an amazing play and that was the reason for it."

"Equus" was a very popular night out on the West End in London, and each night oodles of fans could be found congregating at the back door waiting for Daniel to appear after the show. Along with the fans were the paparazzi, but there was a solution to the paparazzi problem. "Basically what we would do was...I would wear the same outfit every single time with different t-shirts underneath, but I’d wear the same jacket, zip it up so they couldn’t see what I was wearing underneath, and the same hat, so they could take photos for six months but it would look like the same day," laughs Daniel.

Dan will soon get the chance to wear the same hat and jacket once again when he reprises his role in "Equus" on Broadway in September of 2008.

Behind The Glasses

There are a few parallels to be drawn between the apprentice wizard and Dan. Thrust into the limelight at an early age, both Harry and Dan have had to deal with the hazards of the media circus. Both are coping well. It is possible to imagine Dan walking the corridors of his school with people muttering "Bless my soul, it's Daniel Radcliffe!" but happily, this does not seem to be the case! Dan says that his life has changed surprisingly little since taking on the role of the world’s most famous boy wizard. When Dan himself is asked what qualities he shares with the bespectacled schoolboy hero, he states that loyalty, curiosity, standing up for himself and a propensity to land himself in trouble are the greatest similarities. His friends are, like Harry's, incredibly important and they have not changed their attitude towards him since stardom has struck.

Dan attends an all-boys private school in London when not receiving private tutoring on set and he has diverse interests. He supports his local football (soccer) team, Fulham, and looks after his two dogs, Binka and Nugget. He has credited Chris Columbus with giving him a love of film, and counts ‘Apollo 13’, '12 Angry Men', ‘Moulin Rouge’ and 'What's Eating Gilbert Grape' among his favourites. He has developed a love of classic punk music (The Sex Pistols, The Clash, The Pixies) and he isn’t at all shy about sharing his opinions on any band. He has a lot to keep him occupied in his free time - practising the bass guitar, really studying magic (he's a dab hand at card tricks), working out and trying his hand at writing his own stories.

Over the last several years, Dan has put his fame and influence to good use, quietly engaging in charity projects. In May 2002, Dan contributed to a video which is designed to help autistic people learn to recognise facial expressions, an act which inspired fans here at DanRadcliffe.com to raise over £2000 for the National Autistic Society to mark his 14th birthday.

In March 2003, a lock of his hair and an autograph raised over £750 for the British charity Comic Relief, which benefits deprived areas in the UK and around the world. In February 2005, Dan’s autographed Hogwart’s Crew T-Shirt was auctioned by the Tsunami Celebrity Clothes Auction to raise over £500 for victims in Southeast Asia.

Dan also participated on the buyer’s side of a recent charity auction by submitting the winning bid for a handwritten copy of the Sirius Black family tree donated by J.K. Rowling to Book Aid International. Another very worthwhile cause that he has chosen to support is Demelza House Children's Hospice in Kent, south-east England. Dan's request to fans that they make a donation to Demelza House has raised thousands of pounds to help improve the quality of life for terminally ill children (click here for details).

Reviews of Dan's portrayal of Harry Potter thus far have been consistently positive and, in February 2002, he won the Variety Club Award for Outstanding New Talent. Since then, he has received a number of popular awards, including two Silver Otto Awards from German magazine "Bravo", TIME for Kids 2002 Person of the Year, "Relly" Awards for Junior Achiever of the Year from the Regis and Kelly show in the US in 2003 and 2004, and Best Actor awards from 7 Extra Magazine (Belgium, Jan 2006), Roadshow Magazine (China, August 2004), and the KZONE Kids Choice Awards (July 2004).

The enormous success of the Potter franchise doesn't seem to faze the young actor. He has stated that he never watches his performances once the premieres are over and, in order to stay focused and grounded, does not pay attention to his own press.

"To this day I have never ever read a word that has been printed about me or the films - and I never ever watch interviews I have given on television."

Playing the world’s most beloved young wizard has had another side effect - Dan has earned quite a large female following recently, which is doubtless set to increase this year! He has received thousands of letters, but does he consider himself a heartthrob? Comes the modest reply:

"Personally I can't see it, but if other people can, fine. Cool!"

Unfogging The Future

What's next for the remarkably mature young actor, whose exquisite manners, talent and charm have cast such a spell over the cinematic world? "Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince" will be in theaters November 21, 2008. He is also signed up for the final Potter films, "Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows" part one and two, coming in 2010 and 2011 respectively.

In the long term, Dan has expressed an interest in acting and directing. Does he have any preference with regard to role or genre?

"I would consider doing any part as long as the script is good and the film has an interesting director, but it would be a mistake to want to show you can do stuff other than Harry Potter so badly that you just rush into something."

As an experienced actor, Dan is well aware of what’s important in the film industry! Dan has now worked alongside half of Britain's A-List actors, such as Alan Rickman, Kenneth Branagh, Julie Walters, Gary Oldman, Ralph Fiennes and the late, great Richard Harris. When asked who else he would like to work with, Jake Gyllenhaal, Geoffrey Rush (who played Dan’s father in "The Tailor of Panama") and Robert Carlyle are at the top of the list.

It is safe to say that whatever path he chooses, Daniel Radcliffe will probably continue to charm all those he meets. The staff of DanRadcliffe.com are very excited about what’s in store for 2008 and beyond, and we wish Dan all the very best in the years to come which should see his star shine even more brightly in the sky than it does already.

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- Daniel Radcliffe Biography